Bhai Phonta observed two days after Diwali in Bengal is a unique festival celebrating the unbreakable bond between a brother and sister. It is observed through various family ceremonies. The sister places a mark (phonta) of sandalwood or curd on her brother's forehead, praying for his long life. But have you ever wondered why sandalwood or curd is applied to the brother's forehead?
Sandalwood: Many years ago, sages and ascetics discovered
the properties of sandalwood. It is believed that applying a sandalwood mark (tilak)
to the forehead keeps the brain cool and increases patience. It also calms the
mind, thereby improving concentration. After becoming aware of these qualities,
they introduced the practice of applying sandalwood to the forehead. This is
why a sandalwood phonta is given at any temple and Hindu religious ceremony.
Curd (Yogurt): Curd possesses the same properties as
sandalwood. Therefore, this is also the reason for applying a phonta of curd to
the brother's forehead.
Aarti (Worship with Lamp): Sisters also perform aarti for
their brothers by lighting a lamp. It is believed that this strengthens the
special bond between the brother and sister and acts as spiritual protection.
Sweet Exchange: After the aarti, sisters feed their brothers sweets as a symbol of their love. This signifies how sweet their relationship is, and the gift the brother gives to the sister shows how much he loves and cares for her.