A lot of us struggle with emotional pain of the past in the
present. It keeps creating problems in our present. The pain persists despite distracting
and diverting the mind. Alcohol and similar negative methods are employed
giving a brief relief but creating more headaches. The best way to tackle
emotional pain is by changing tactics until you find a positive solution.
An ideal method to tackle an emotional pain is to use it for
self-growth. It is like treating it as big lesson in life. We have gone through
an experience and now we know how to tackle and deal with it. Write about it
and share it. Soon you will find that there are people around you who have
suffered even worse things. Learn from their mistakes and help them. We can
mitigate emotional problems by sharing and caring.
Many times what we call an emotional problem is
inconsequential. We are giving undue importance to it due to our ignorance. Instead
of focusing on the universal truths that can give us eternal bliss, we focus on
happiness that will disappear like a drop of dew on leaf in the early morning
hours. We think the dewdrop to be eternal. All external form of happiness and
joy are like the early morning drop of dew.
When we are ready to encompass the whole our little emotional problems will have no space or we will not
be even able to locate them.
Again we are suffering emotionally because we are selfish.
Here selfishness is in the form of expectation, to be honored, to be
recognized, to be thankful for the sacrifices. Do your work with utmost honesty
but in a detached manner. Then forget about the results. If someone is not
reciprocating your love, then move on. Why should we wait for the other person
to love us back? The person might be having other interests. Give the person
the freedom and let us move on with our life. When we are in pain when another
person does not reciprocate love in the same degree as we want, we are
concerned chiefly only with ourselves and our likes and dislikes and our advantage.
Have devotion and love for God, read about people overcoming
more tiring situation than ours, read inspirational stories and articles and
above all read and understand scriptures. Hindu scriptures talk about universal
truths. Take for example the Bhagavad Gita, it is not talking about suffering
or miracle; it is the greatest book on psychology. It is full of solutions to psychological
problems that we face today.
Instead of getting obsessed with our emotional problems, we
should look around and read about people who have achieved release from it.
The only way to escape from the pain of adversities and difficulties
is to remain detached in life. Detachment does not mean to ignore things. It means
to do our duty with honesty and dedication not expecting anything from it.
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