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Find Out What We Really Want In Life – For Peace And Success In Life

The young one of a bird was learning to fly. He often fell down and yet was trying his hard to fly. His mother would often help him out and give some practical tips to improve. And then one day, when he felt confident to fly alone, he decided to make a maiden trip to a nearby forest. As a caution and advice, the mother bird told the young one to be aware of the hunters who spread the grains and cast a net over it. To ensure that he remembers it, the mother told him, ‘Repeat, “I will be aware of hunters, I will be aware of hunters. . .”’

The young one repeated and flew off. In the evening, when he did not return, the mother bird, worried and anxious, went in search of him. After much flying around, she finally heard her young one’s voice. He was repeating, ‘I will be aware of hunters, I will be aware of hunters’ and was lying caught in the net which the hunter had laid!

That is our life, too. We repeat and reiterate our freedom but are often caught in the nets of our own passions and ego. We know but that does not help. So, wherein lies the crux of the matter? It lies in seeking, in finding out what we really want, and stop reciting and proclaiming what we seem to want.

Swami Vivekananda says
Let us ask ourselves each day, ‘Do we want God?’ When we begin to talk religion, and especially when we take a high position and begin to teach others, we must ask ourselves the same question. I find many times that I don’t want God, I want bread more. I may go mad if I don’t get a piece of bread; many ladies will go mad if they don’t get a diamond pin, but they do not have the same desire for God; they do not know the only Reality that is in the universe.

Among all the spiritual disciplines one takes up, the practice of being aware of oneself is the ‘best’. We must examine our motives, our intentions and our expectations — and the more we can study ourselves, the more we can understand ourselves. We can fool some people sometimes but not all people all times. So, one must be conscious of what one wants. We must convert our ‘information’ into conviction for it is conviction that becomes action. We always follow what we are convinced of and not just what we proclaim. Faith gets transformed into action. ‘A man is as his faith is,’ says the Gita (17.3).

Two cautions in this practice of self -examination: in order to do honest self-appraisal and self-examination, one should keep a sharp eye on the excuses and arguments that the impure mind makes in its own favor—the ‘it is alright attitude.’ When we are caught in such lines of thoughts, we are lenient towards ourselves and strict towards others, while the opposite should be followed: being strict towards oneself and lenient towards others.

And the second caution is about the basic approach that we should adopt: let us never try to prove our moral and spiritual life to others. Does that alter my goodness or evil? Let us be good for our own sake on our own responsibility,’ cautioned Swami Vivekananda.

That would be living honestly.