Stop finding fault in others. When we constantly find fault
in others, we can never have a normal and healthy relationship. People will
start keeping us at a distance. We will soon find ourselves lonely and lacking
a good friend. Why We Need to Stop Fault Finding? Simply because it is a negative quality.
It is impossible to find a person who fits into our definition
of good. We have to learn to ignore many things. Be the change that we want to
see in others. Do not force other people to change.
Stop criticizing others. We criticize other people’s choice
of dress, friends, movies, likes, dislikes etc. This is forcing our likes and
dislikes on another person. We are trying to dominate. An important aspect of a
good relationship is freedom and acceptance. Accept the likes and dislikes of
the other person. Accept and respect the other person for all of who they are.
Instead of gossiping indulge in some constructive activity.
We waste a lot of energy and time on gossiping. Quite often, it boomerangs on
us. What do we get from gossiping, nothing but a momentary pleasure in showing
someone down. Today we gossip about someone. Tomorrow others will gossip about
us. This is a vicious cycle. Get out of it and spend that time and energy in
doing something that is beneficial to others and us.
Stay away from gossipmongers and fault finders. We have this
habit of encouraging gossipmongers and fault finders as long as we are not the
victim. This is not a good habit. This creates enemies. Even though we might
have not directly hurt another person but by encouraging a gossipmonger, we are
equally guilty. The person who was hurt waits for an opportunity to hit back.
We see this in workplaces, offices and among friends. We never know when we
will need the help of a particular person. So avoid gossips, which hurt other
people.
Try to see the good qualities in others. Faultfinding is never
going to have a happy and successful conclusion. Instead of focusing on faults,
encourage and appreciate the goodness in other people. This will make them
happy. This also has a great advantage, tomorrow when you give a constructive
criticism the person will accept it.
When we constantly search for lapses and shortcomings in others,
we pollute our mind. We all have enough shares of problems in life. Why create
more problems. Ignore lapses and shortcomings in others. Use that time to solve
our serious problems.
Abhilash
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Abhilash
www.hindu-blog.com