The mind has to be conditioned in childhood itself. After conditioning our mind, nothing adverse will happen when we come to the field of spirituality.
One must live in the worldly life, then only we can say we have become truly matured. No use running away.
After all our duties and responsibilities are carried out, our children carry these responsibilities forward. At that stage, comes Sanyasa. No use running away from life before that stage.
When the mind has ceased to move, when it returns to its original state of absolute stillness, then, something takes place, which we may call the ‘understanding of the reality’.
It is not because of religion that we have strife but because we have forgotten the essence of it. Force can never be neutralized by force. You need affection and love.