The only power we have is over our mind. We do not have control over outside things. Sadly, we have surrendered this only power and are slaves of the mind. Control the mind and we will find our strength.
Mind plays innumerable tricks on us. Learning to dodge these tricks and reaching the goal post is self-realization.
Before trying to know others we need to be aware of ourselves.
When we see and accept our faults, we take the path to bliss.
Instead of fighting with others, we should fight with our mind and get it disciplined.