Learn to give love, instead of asking for it. Stop being self-centered; cry no longer words such as ‘I was rejected’, ‘I am unloved’, ‘I am lonely’. When you do this, you are re-enforcing these thoughts. People see you and move away because they are afraid of what you might demand.
Loving and not expecting something is the secret of being loved. Avoid clinging and resist the temptation of wanting to pour out your own story. Think of selfless ways of loving, without fear of rejection. Even before you begin to feel that you are being loved, you will begin to feel a sense of satisfaction because you have been selfless.
Find the positive concealed in the negative, free the mind of being in conflict. By learning to resolve conflicts, de-condition the mind of its conditioning. Lift it from habit patterns, free it from running in set grooves, and thereby develop fresh insights of positive nature into relationships, communication and events as well as philosophical realities and truths. Liberate the mind and consciousness from conditions.
Swami Veda Bharati