Vidhava means Widow. “Avidhava” means not a Widow – Sumangali. Avidhava Navami in the context of Pitru Paksham is the day on which ceremonies/rituals are to be performed for those Women (Mothers) who died as Sumangali. Avidhava Navami 2012 date is October 9.
It should be performed by the son/s on the Navami tithi day during Pithru Paksha.
On this day, brahmana – muthaide bhojana should be arranged, apart from regular Shradha. Some people perform Sankalpa Shradha on this day, whereas some people only do Shradha.
During Avidhava Navami, unlike paksha (wherein all the forefathers will be called), only his mother, mother’s in law and great grand mother (maata, maatamahi, and prapitaamahi) will be called and panda pradhana will be done. (This is also called as anvasthaka shraddha).
Avidhavanavami has to be done as long as the husband of the muthaide is surviving. After father’s death, Avidhavanami need not be done.
shraaddham navamyaam kuryaattu mRutE bhartari lupyatE | - We have to invite the mutthaideyaru for avidhanavami by giving oil-turmeric-kumkuma. While giving dakshine/tamboola, one has to give kumkuma, saaree, blouse piece, flowers, mirror, with marada bagina.
On this day, holige-ambode or bonda to be done. Uddina Vade NOT TO BE DONE FOR AVIDHANAVAMI.
On this day, holige-ambode or bonda to be done. Uddina Vade NOT TO BE DONE FOR AVIDHANAVAMI.
Written by Narahari Sumadhwa
7 comments:
Sir, We have been performing Avidhavanavami of our mother since so many years and continuing performing the same even after our father died four years back. There is contradiction in this regard, some say there is no need to perform Avidhvanavami after the death of father and others say there is no harm in continuing performing Avidhavanavami even after the death of father. Under these circumstances, we have been continuing performing of the Avidhavanavami of our mother due to unavailability of 'Shastradhara' in this regard. We request you to enlighten us if there is 'Nishidda' in this regard, where such information is available, etc., so that we can continue or stop performing without any doubt in our mind. Seeking guidance, Varadaraja Rao, D.
Sri Varadaraja Rao - This ritual is meant only for sumangalis or for women who died before their husbands died.
After the husband's death she is no longer a sumangali. So you can stop the ritual.
From now onwards you can perform the usual Shradh rituals for both your parents.
Sir, My mother died six days back i.e. on 7th august 2011. My father is alive and he wants to perform shradh for my mother. My brother is also here to perform the shradh on the ninth day of pitra paksha. we are from north india (Lucknow, uttar pradesh), we donth know how to perfom it. Can you kindly tell us how to perform?
regards
Avidha Navami rituals varies from region to region. You should contact an elderly person or priest in your area.
If you are performing it at Gaya you might get phone numbers of priests.
Sir,
In our situation, my husbands first wife died during the first child birth complications and the child survived who is now my daughter. I am the second wife. I do not have any children of my own. I just call some sumangali for Bhojan and give some gift. My husband just says that everything is the mind. He does not do any retuals except for varsha shraddha we go to temple and give some donation in her name. I will be grateful if you could please let me know what should I be doing.
Varsha Shraddha is more than enough. What your doing is good.
It would be nice if you donate food or money to poor children on the day.
Sri Abhilash, Thank you very much for evincing interest in clarifying my doubt. But, I have been looking for some Shasthradhara with regard to any Nishiddha in continuing performing of Avidhava Navami for a mother, who died Sumangali, even after the death of father. You have opined that after the death of father, mother will no longer be Sumangali. I have a doubt here. During Shradda of mother, we worship/decorate the Pinda with turmeric, Kumkum and flowers and this practice is prevalent in all most all areas. Does it not mean that we continue to treat the mother died Sumangali even after the death of father. Not only that, in my case, my mother, grand mother (Pithamahi) and great grand mother (Prapithamahi) all died as Sumangalis and we decorate the all the three Pindas with turmeric, Kumkum and flowers. Then, how can we presume that mother will no longer be treated as Sumangali for performing of Avidhava Navami after the death of father?
- Varadaraja Rao, D.
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